THINGS THAT OUR FATHERS DID NOT TELL US

I want to advise those in love and overall families. When sharp difference emerges within, always be wise enough to know that reconciliation is possible. Even far-left radicles like me who should not even imagine reconciliation does. What does thinking and knowing about reconciliation mean? When you know you can reconcile with your partner or family member, you avoid things or activities that would further undermine your relationship. For instance, a family with five kids should never behave as if they would never need each other. Always make sure you don't behave such as to create new hatred that didn't even exist. What not to do! Use of demeaning and insulting language. From experience, women are the most terrible I have ever seen when it comes to using unfiltered language. At one point, my friend's girlfriend, in the heat of the moment, told my friend how she had aborted his twins. The damage that was done at that moment led to the complete end of the affair. Initially, the lady had no intention of revealing such. Another Kisii lady insulted the father-in-law "Omoisi" loosely translated as a young boy, and when she attempted reconciliation it failed. Reason? She had directed the most demeaning and undermining insult to the father-in-law. The husband went ahead and remarried. From a personal angle, I view people who carelessly talk about anything when angry as very primitive, uncultured, and not worth any serious` man`s effort. Such are street products that need to be cultured and refined to join the normal communities. For elite families, you must purpose to avoid new beef with the less fortunate. When you have differences with any family member( Extended family), do not allow your kids to treat the latter with disdain. Just tell them you have differences but respect must continue. Such differences are not worth it at all. It is always important that people who have interacted and created a relationship on goodwill continue doing so even long after the affair is over. Following this culture, I have need uttered a single bad thing to my ex, short term, and long term. I am a well-cultured and reserved man who is very very selective in my words. I also train my girlfriends that they cannot use my "my one-minute" nature to undermine me. If anything, I am the 0nly one who can publicly say am one minute, they cannot say in the same way when I find a borehole, I swim and leave in peace without politicizing it later.