Anyone who has attempted to dump a lover understands that it is not an easy task. It is never a walk in the park. There will be emotional outbursts, and depending on the type of the relationship that is about to end, there will usually be overriding anxiety about how the other side will take it.
Take it from me now. When it comes to dealing with breakups, women are far more resilient than males. A woman might be dumped today, weep all night, and then be confidently tacked in someone's arms the next day, utterly fooling her next catch into thinking she is OK. It has occurred to me. A girl who made you believe (read presume) that you meant the world to her walks away and goes on to the next relationship so nonchalantly that it hurts. On the rebound, she may opt to pick it up with a close friend. This only goes to prove that someone else's garbage may be a treasure.
It's different for males, particularly those of this generation. When a guy gets dumped by a lady he loved, he may commit suicide. Men only love once. Women can love again and again. Only wrecks with large cocks who give them the sex of their life that they never let go of—think the usual bad guy Mike that she keeps singing two years after.
However, dumping has grown prevalent in a campus-like Moi, even though the habit of getting back together is as common. Recently, I've been wondering why guys bother breaking up. Because having sex with your ex appears to be not just fashionable but also institutionalized.
It takes skill to face someone and explain that you should part ways. Excellent abilities. Like a PR guru. Like a good diplomat who can tell you to go to hell in such a way that you eagerly anticipate the journey. You must have sufficient emotional intelligence. That capability to empathize with his or her inner turmoil while explaining why you are better off apart. Acceptance is usually an issue in these scenarios.
Of course, everyone recognizes the common thread that runs along the phrases,
"This is about me." I know you deserve better. I'm not the proper guy/girl for you. I appear to be going through a lot. So we should split up and follow our aspirations because if we were meant to be, we would always find our way back to one other."
If a lady heard this, she will cry herself sourly. This is a sheer rejection of her. She will conduct a brief self-examination, questioning her appearance or personality, and then fly to a location called denial for as long as she desires. She would beg to remain if she wanted to. But from what I've observed of males, once they've made up their minds, they stick to it. It cannot be reconciled. It is difficult for a man to regain his rhythm after switching off, especially sexually. I believe something within us simply dies.
If, on the other hand, it is a woman doing the dumping and she chooses to do it verbally, she will be damaging the man's ego. Dumping is a man's job. It's quite manly. It boosts our self-esteem. However, my observations on this campus indicate that there are just as many women as males dumping. And women approach it differently.
A woman never dumps a man until she is halfway into another relationship that guarantees her financial, social, and, most crucially, sexual stability. When a woman meets a man who treats her better (better means he can tolerate her crap or can submit to her numerous demands), she will give him a test run that includes a good shag before she concludes matters on the other end. No woman throws away her current catch until the future is certain.
When she shows up to break the news, she will always be unnaturally good or exceedingly moody, as if you have irritated her. Women can never be tactical in this situation. They may sometimes be blunt and get away with it. After that, they offer to be friendly, but there's always that nasty grin of dumb conquest. What I hate the most about them is their deception. When you ask them, is it another man?
"No, I'm not into another relationship." I've been through a lot with you, and I need a break..."bullshit! ! Right there, she is busy texting him to meet for coffee. F*** coffee.
Either way, there is never an easy way out.
Make use of sign language.
The most prevalent method of dumping is through sign language. Here are some frequent warning signals that something is wrong:
When the number of calls and messages goes down, is obvious that you should read the signs.
• It's time to inquire about stuff when she breaks the pattern of regularity, always engaged with what appear to be real commitments.
• When the phone suddenly becomes a private affair, full of passwords and even the use of a flashlight.
• When there are no calls when you are expecting them.
• When any type of dependence is no longer required. The other party suddenly declares independence.
• When he begins flirting with women in your company, a previously unseen tendency, it indicates that a part of him has died. Take a hint, young man.
• When there is always a reason to avoid you.
• When the reception gets ice cold every growing day, and all the niceties and sweet nothings go.
• When the tongues begin to be as careless as possible and indications of unfathomable rudeness begin to surface.
• When your stuff is relocated, especially if you're a lady with the stereotypical tendency of leaving behind tiny items like clothes and jewelry, and your query is treated with some hostility, it signals to move out since the next occupant is right around the corner.
P.S
we are taking a one month sabbatical, there after we shall resume with Fresha Pop Series.
Keep it here for more fireworks...
.jpg)
Comments