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There are many things in life that can irritate and hurt
someone.
I encounter people every day who are harboring resentments
from ten years ago and chasing a pointless dream to disprove an uncle or aunt
who once told them they would never amount to much. Such a depressing way to
live.
I encounter individuals who take the small inconveniences of
life very personally every day. They treat everything as personal, and in the
end they lose valuable time by putting up with so much nonsense when they ought
to get rid of it and live a more responsible life.
When I meet a person beyond the age of 25, I am disappointed
because I know they will never be able to move past hurts and betrayals in the
future. Yet betrayals keep happening in life. Nothing in life is more certain
than being betrayed and having people let you down. Sometimes it's you who
disappoints them.
Some people never recover from heartbreaks, choosing instead
to live a life of self-destruction because another person let them down. In
fact, for some people, the termination of a relationship (especially one
brought on by adultery) or a woman rejecting you is a bone-chilling experience.
Some people use drugs. Some turn to whoring in an effort to dull the pain. And
particularly most males lack the ability to deal with rejection. several ladies
as well. The riskiest of falls is falling in love because of this. It might be
euphoric and abrupt.
People who are as close to you as your siblings will exploit
you. Even their parents will act in ways that are unfathomable to some people.
Consider abusive fathers who inappropriately touch their daughters. More often
than not, I encounter adults who, for whatever reason, have severed ties with
their mothers. Some handle it gracefully, while others don't. Some people go to
great lengths to support their siblings' education, only for the girl to run
out or the boy to give in to drug consumption, gambling, or both. And it hurts
when you invest a lot of money to help someone succeed just for them to blow
the opportunity and become a financial burden in the future.
I have come across men in their fifties who had devoted a
sizable portion of their mental RAM to past mistakes. When do they want to
start living, I wonder. Their suffering is largely considered to be minor. Many
of the claims are legitimate, but is it ethical to remain married to a lady who
divorced you and seized all of your stuff 20 years ago?
Every day, we encounter several things that irritate us. In
public places, women who smear chewing gum under the tables. Men who leave skid
marks in toilets. Farting on the dance floor. The idiots at the back of the bus
who usually want to exit first before even the bus get into the stage. The
halfwits step on your polished shoes and it’s they come from neighborhoods
where the word "sorry" is not commonly used.
Every weekend, there are politicians who make foolish
statements from church pulpits. Sycophants with an absurd capacity for
shamelessness who, every evening when we watch the news, just serve to fuel our
rage. I mean, some folks have no brains at all.
There are also some pretty foolish people on social media. To
some people, I might be one of them. I occasionally read things that make my
blood boil. I frequently say things that irritate some people, particularly
feminist women.
Some matatu touts are interested in keeping your change. Men
that steal from us are paid the highest salary to execute their duties. Girls
that want to steal all of your technological equipment and tamper with your
drink. Men who want to rape a female because they consumed beverages that cost,
Sh 7,000. Cruel domestic helpers who treat children badly.
Some pastors are too corrupt, taking advantage of their
gullible congregation. Today, even traditional churches are operated like
corporations, using their members as pawns in fundraising efforts to fulfill
the materialistic ambitions of their leaders and preachers.
There are coworkers who are ineffective. You constantly put up
with their carelessness and incompetence (especially laziness). Some people
borrow money but never pay it back. Some people borrow your car or a device with
no regard for class at all since they will return it broken or too dirty with
no ability to apologize or clean up their mistake.
Is it true that some people are simply stupid by nature? Or do
they just carry the gene for an arsehole?
Then there are those who dislike accepting accountability for
their deeds. people who are unaware of the effects of their acts as they are
growing up. People who drink and drive can own their mistakes after they are
arrested. Another possibility is that people dislike using rubber, so when the
effects occur, they act shocked. In this instance, they depart for the guys.
Every day, there are many things that can ruin your day. You
can decide to let these minor irritations affect you, or you can decide to
control what makes you upset and how long it will make you angry before you
head to the bar for a beer, or you can choose a book or a blunt to help you
concentrate on what makes you happy.
Nobody has never experienced being betrayed in their life. No
one who has never suffered hurt. There are so many factors that are out of our
control. You might have been born short. You might not be very beautiful.
Perhaps you're poor and your pals are being laid more frequently than you are
while spinning Landcruiser V8. Maybe the devil himself is your landlord. Maybe
you've messed up a few times (cheated and were discovered; just own up to it
and deal with the fallout; don't try to make excuses or claim your spouse
prodded you into it). Live with the fact that you are a hoe or that you have had
a hoe moment. You might decide to alter in the future.)
These occurrences have the capacity to erode our body, mind,
and soul. It is normal to feel irate and resentful. However, I have a problem
with those who only focus on the negative aspects of life and ignore the
positive.
I have a straightforward remedy.
Don't seek revenge if your partner betrayed you. Give the gods
the vengeance. The best retaliation is to keep your composure, pick up the
pieces, and move on. Make no attempt to prove anything. Just keep going. Be
accountable for your actions if you are the offender and you are dumped. If you
are not offered forgiveness, try again later. Feel sorry for yourself, but keep
in mind that you were the one who made the decision. Choose what you want in life,
but avoid the counter at all costs. People make mistakes, learn from them, and
move on. Work as quickly as you can. You cannot unfuck yourself if you have
already been fucked or fucked yourself. Accept it as is.
Don't hold it against your uncle if one of your relatives
misbehaved or if he doesn't return your calls after having promised you a job.
He might not be able to assist you. If he didn't, try other avenues, and if you
were successful, live your life proving something to yourself rather than to the
ones who let you down. It's extremely normal to want to boast or show off, but
if you can go past this, you'll be OK. Black folks are particularly susceptible
to this desire to establish a point. Often, the other people don't care since
they are too busy fighting their own battles to be concerned about your
Mercedes. Or even if they did care, who cares?
Don't allow anything to corrode your soul in life. As soon as
you understand something that makes you angry, make an adjustment as soon as
you can. If someone is doing badly, have the guts to point it out; don't let
a**holes get away with it. Spell it out right away and send the guy to his
space if you're a woman and have a male coworker who is a little too tactile at
the office and it makes you uncomfortable. You'll spare other women in the
future, as well as yourself, a lot of embarrassing situations.
If someone betrays you, let them know. If the betrayal is too
much, work as quickly as you can to get over it. I realize that some betrayals
go quite deep, but keep in mind that you still have a life to live.
“Once you reach age 25, you'll be astounded by how brief life
is. And you'll start living every single freaking second of your life doing
things that make you happy, such as enjoying delicious food, reading fantastic
books, traveling, having wonderful sex,” (but what precisely is good sex? ), “and
other worthwhile activities.” A lady friend of mine tells me so.
Make yourself the center of gravity. Make your own destiny.
I'm not suggesting you stop loving your friends and family or begin to worship
yourself. could turn into a transactional mess. Just be aware of how vulnerable
people may be, and give yourself enough shock absorbers so that nothing will be
as shocking when they screw you over. After you've recovered from the shock, go
on to live a victorious life.
You end up getting resentful and petty when you insist on
carrying a grudge. When you are continuously petty, you wind up leading a
really unhappy life where you seek to convince others but not yourself of
something. When you work for someone other than yourself, you will build a big
house unnecessarily, buy a big automobile unnecessarily, and engage in other
pointless pursuits. Considering that they will constantly ask for more and you
will keep looking for waterfalls.
Man. Just take care of yourself. Do what will make you, your
partner, and family happy.
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