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At around 20 or 21, men of my generation had their first
fellatio (blow-job). Most of it happened during our first year of college and
largely caught everyone off guard. When the young woman went for the male
member and put it in her mouth, reactions varied depending on a variety of
variables: The success of oral sex is solely dependent on hygiene—or perceived
hygiene status—and depends on a number of factors, including: a) how exposed to
pornography he was, or at least his knowledge of foreplay; b) his hygiene
status; c) how conservative one is—if too conservative, he will be excessively
worried that she might have a mental problem and bite you off...
You hardly enjoy that first blow job. Fear, anxiety,
uncertainty, and disbelief all work together to rob you of the enjoyment. As a
male, you lay there wondering how many members she has sucked while reeling
with pleasure, being perplexed that she does not bite you, and, if you are a
rapid comer, holding back your load. Never has the mind been more awake. But
you gain self-assurance over time.
Men of a certain age now frequently fear oral sex. How are you
going to tell folks you got bit by a woman? Even if it's overdone, I have male
friends who are a little older who simply cannot consider having a blow-job,
whether giving or receiving. And this morning, I want to talk about that.
At least in Eldoret and other large cities, blow-jobs are now
accepted as an essential component of foreplay. Once a woman bends down on her
knees, every guy, including those who were born in Soy and Yimbo, has learned
to regard it as a standard aspect of sexual behavior. I have no idea how we got
here. Even girls from Kitale and other parts of Kapusoya have mastered the art
of blowing men away; they can blow your mind right out. I find it puzzling how they learn
or how a woman persuades her mind to take that leap of faith and offer her
first blow job, and I'm willing to spend millions on study to find out what
goes through their minds. And what if they discover the man is dirty when they
finally get down there? How come?
Eddy, a friend of mine, contends that a woman's oral sex
prowess can be inferred from the way she suckers a lollipops or eats a banana.
Or even the sausage. It is unconsciously done. Women that are accustomed to
giving heads will frequently do so in an extremely suggestive manner. Crazy Eddy,
that.
Finally, men are embracing blow jobs. In actuality, guys now
demand or anticipate that even from a chips funga. And I suppose many people
today give attention to hygiene when they go on dates. The misery of a woman
trying to suck it when a combination of pubic and anal odors are emitted is
something I can only picture. I've recently learned that even prostitutes
provide a specific blowjob package, and I have friends who have paid to be
blown in their car. Some of these things could only exist at a seedy strip
joint in the back alleys of Hong Kong or Las Vegas.
I can say with confidence that I am part of the Gen Z who
first experienced blow jobs as a common foreplay activity after a decade of men
getting blow jobs for ten. Our
forefathers only cuddled each other and the man, possibly giving her a little
suckling. And perhaps because she was tickling, the woman was absolutely insane
in the bedroom. Women began blowing on
us. There was, however, an unspoken agreement that as males, we would not repay
the favor. Despite feeling awful, you continued with your work. Less assertive
ladies eventually began to want the man's tongue stimulation, although I'm sure
they were greeted with strong denials along the road, which may be
heartbreaking. The foundation of healthy sex is shared imaginations. In terms
of oral sex, males have historically undervalued women, despite the fact that
they were the early adopters of new sexual trends that originated in the West
or Asia. And the women made it possible for their younger sisters and daughters
to have the kinds of sexual desires that men would have rejected. That moment
has now arrived.
I was WhatsApping with this incredibly lovely and charming
young girl a while back. Let's call her Njeri since she's only 17. Fresh out of
high school. She had been reading my newspaper pieces and blog. She is razor
sharp and incredibly cunning. She asked me, "Do you go down on a
woman?" out of the blue.
I was completely shocked. It's similar to when a little child
asks you that awful question in public for the first time. Do you recognize the
enveloping silence that permeates the space? My mind went blank. Although I had
not yet met her, she exuded such sexual confidence that I had to pretend to not
understand her question in order to get her to state it clearly. Did she? And I
choose the most socially acceptable way to respond to her.
Nearly all of my male acquaintances who are in their late 20s
or older told me they had never given a woman some oral stimulation and they
never will. The majority of the 0.2% of the remaining 1% have only given once
and have vowed never to do so again. If they encounter a lady who certifies
specific hygienic conditions, O.3% have contributed and would do so again.These
are clearly the most repulsive of the bunch.The remaining 0.5% can only make
fun of particular female celebrities.
Therefore, why don't males give women blow-jobs? I have a
number of theories that you might find objectionable. First off, there are what
are known as generational constraints. We learned early on that touching a
woman's boobs, giving them a little suckling, and moving on were all that was
required. Later on, we discover various additional eras or locations that
heighten the suspense. We also chose particular activities that we thought were
worthwhile to pursue by sharing with others and from porn. Cunilingus, however,
is not one of them. Our impression of the female genitalia is significantly
impacted by the fact that we were raised believing that sex is a dirty thing
(both literally and symbolically). You will come across a dozen unclean women
during your early sexual adventures, which firmly cements the concept.
It's important to keep in mind that as women become older,
they are subjected to soaps, detergents, and other ways of washing their bodies
to maintain a flawless body odor, but by then the damage had already been done.
But today's young women are more and more aware of the need of
excellent personal hygiene, and they feel comfortable requesting men to lick
them. It depends on the generation. The experience is fascinating for men of
all ages. Recently, a woman confided in me that many women keep this a secret,
even though some of them are not totally ready, out of fear of disappointing
and offending the man. All of us struggle with these sexual phobias and aspire
to be the partner who gives their lover the best sex. However, due mostly to
the mental conditioning that society has given our generation's women, very few
of them are psychologically prepared for the same. But more significantly,
there will always be someone in your life with whom you feel sexually at ease,
and with whom you will do all kinds of insane things that you will remember
till the day you die. You try all kinds of stuff out, frequently with horrible
outcomes, but it's still fascinating.
I am aware that some older women—possibly those above the age
of 34—will not even consider accepting a blow job. The same applies. They'll
think it's weird and filthy. Men experience the same thing. An evolutionary act
is sex. In certain societies, like Sudan, I've learned that sex is only used
for breeding. The concept of having sex with or without a condom and then
taking a pill is still some decades away.
And the curriculum is currently evolving. Since the 2000s,
there have been newer preoccupations with sex, including homosexuality,
lesbianism, and BDSM. And it just goes to demonstrate how sex has evolved. In
ten years, I bet that gay people will be accepted more and that more daring
sexual behaviors will be performed. More people are likely to pass away from
strangulation as they experiment with harmful sexual behaviors in the seclusion
of their bedrooms. Without the worries or concerns we once had, males can
orally stimulate women with ease. More and more people will accept perversion
as usual.
Conservatives like myself can only hope that we will be
pleased with the standard procedure that served our age. We are in an
intriguing period where sex, which should take less than 20 minutes to conduct
and finish, has taken center stage and permeates every aspect of our lives.
Even though we all try to act like normal people when walking
down the street, I often wonder what kind of perversion each person has ever
experienced. Everyone follows a particular perversion. When I look at women, I
ponder the horrors they may have experienced in many city bedrooms. In some
short surveys I've been running, women have revealed that some males have
requested them to try anal!
I hold this thought that if a man can go anal with a woman, he
likely to go anal with a fellow man. Perhaps these NGOs have some insight into
the prevalence of gays and bisexuals in our society. Scary.
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