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Lessons Learned from Finishing Campus

“The next time you live like this will be when you’ve made your first million,” the old tuk tuk driver transporting my belongings from college to my new home remarked.   “Out here, you don’t vandalize property because your tap is dry or there’s a power outage.” His tone carried a hint of sadistic sarcasm, regardless of how well-meaning his unrequested guidance was.   In the past few months, I’ve been having numerous meetings with Mr. Reality. Just two weeks ago, while attending a graduation party at a friend's place, the caretaker stormed in, furious, and served a notice that completely killed the party. Only recently, while shopping at a local supermarket, I found out that the price of Unga has skyrocketed to six times what it was when I started my college four years ago. These are just a few of the harsh realities that the seemingly comfortable life in college shelters you from. It's not amusing at all.   Reality is the most grotesque monster one can face, parti...

WHEN YOUR EX FARES ON BETTER THAN YOU





When you believe that the person you just dumped would be better off dead or living a miserable life, it might be difficult to watch them flourishing in life. Some of Duke's observations are insightful.

 

This is a situation that occurs frequently. Many intentionally stay in relationships that do not advance their well-being for a long time in the vain hope that things would turn around. Such relationships restrict their potential and hinder their creativity, preventing them from advancing in their academic, professional, social, or emotional life, among other areas. It is never easy to see how constrictive these relationships are when one is still operating under the idea of love.

One must take a break from a relationship in order to realize their greatest potential. It is usually necessary to make a number of sacrifices in order for the relationship to succeed. Finding someone with whom you can easily connect is never simple. We encounter couples who are frequently marching and mismatched. People are compelled to give up their passions, hobbies, or talent for the dubious purpose of compatibility. Regrettably, they eventually come to the conclusion that their sacrifice was not worthwhile.

 

One must leave the relationship when it comes to a screeching halt. The post-breakup feelings might be intense if the relationship was violent. It's difficult to forgive when entire trust has been completely betrayed. You wish to ship your ex to Siberia, blindfold him or her, tie his or her arms and feet, and leave them there to freeze to death. The fictitious penalty becomes more severe the more profound the discrepancies. You definitely don't want to see your ex-partner succeeding. And they do, in fact.

Breakups that are amicable are simpler to handle. One finds it simpler to forgive and does not really care whether the other party is elected a  president. A bitter breakup is something entirely else.

 

After successfully navigating the post-breakup blues, people frequently emerge stronger, wiser, and more cautious about their actions in the choppy waters of relationships. When your lover takes you for granted, it is never good.

Someone who disregards your commitment and is never sorry when caught deserves to be abandoned as soon as possible. But, ladies always harbor the hopeless optimism that he'll change. By the time they realize they have been duped, they are always angry yet eager to continue with a strong desire to criticize their partner who has now become their tormentor.

 

There is always a party being walked out on in a breakup. When the offender thinks there is nothing to worry about, the offended person thinks the grounds are valid. Women in particular have a tendency to stay in relationships that truly take advantage of them.

 

Males are just as likely to remain in partnerships that impede growth. Men can love women with their hearts, not their tongues or their underwear, in contrast to the widely held yet gravely incorrect belief. Women can now mess someone up just as well as males. After the breakup is inevitable, either partner will yearn for the other to suffer once more.

 

People are inspired to approach life with newfound fervor by the animosity and blatant contempt that they have for one another. Moving on with your life as if they never existed is the sweetest form of retaliation you can give your ex. After a breakup, some people plan ways to exact revenge. Nonetheless, it is usually always ineffective.

Others are capable of forgiving and moving on. They have success in their subsequent love lives. They at least find a partner who values them. someone who shows them love and dedication in return. It's never pleasant when the ex finds out about it. To your annoyance, someone you disregarded and assumed couldn't possibly be loved or didn't deserve any better treatment ends up getting lucky. The resentful party appears to be bouncing around from poor relationships to bad relationships in the meantime.

 

Both professionally and academically, they appear to be progressing fairly well. It appears that the painful breakup was sufficient to bring out the scholar in them again. As a result, they pursue their MBAs or receive job promotions that they may have missed while they were intoxicated by their love or infatuation. They appear to be everywhere you look if they are celebrities or politicians who enjoy the limelight. Your dislike or contempt is enhanced by the fact that you are intimately familiar with them.

 

It's usually a good idea to show respect and etiquette to the people we care about. Guys are always able to betray whatever trust that has been placed in them. And women can no longer be trusted, unfortunately.

While your ex is doing well, it is best to avoid them. Normally, this is not the time to exact revenge. It is not the right time to start threatening to reveal your relationship's dirty little secrets. There is nothing more pointless. both repugnant and absurd.

I recently read Oluremi Obasanjo's autobiography, Bitter-Sweet, and couldn't help but notice how she tried in vain to smear Olusegun Obasanjo. I wonder if she was successful in achieving her objective, given that she was rightfully resentful of his wife-battering tendencies and his voracious sexual hunger. Even though the indications were so blatantly conveyed from the start, if anything, it served to highlight her resistance to leaving. Ultimately, she is the loser in my eyes.


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